I went to a Birthmothers event on Saturday. While I was there I met quite a few Birthmothers that have become Adoptive mothers. I have often thought that I would like to be an adoptive mother, this way I would be able to know how the birthmother felt and to be kind to her. I guess each case is different, and some birthmothers have become adoptive mothers with this same thing in mind, come to find out that the birthmother does not want what the new understanding adoptive mother is willing to share. I don't know, but I would love to hear from you on this.